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  • my gf samantha is nowhere to be found its driveing me mad

I can be asked for dating advice. I lead people to a goal I cannot achieve myself. And apparently it works for everyone except me. Still can't achieve my goals can I? Oh well

Zeldaria Same, but I give great advice surprisingly! Apparently it works for not only men but for women and I don't know how I do it.

      oh great INTERNECION share us your dating wisdom we are but humble nerds in search of a companion.

        I mean do you have a problem and/or looking for someone at the moment?

        actually my best friend wants to start dating me. what do i do/say?

        Best friend? This will only go two ways.

        1. The relationship will be a dumpster fire

        2. This will go completely fine with a lot flaws

        If it is your best friend you are getting with, it is such a flip of the coin, a 50/50, on whether or not it will go well. There is no need to worry about the 1st option. As long as you do everything correctly you will be fine.

        1. Do not take away your friend liberties. If you are the best friend of someone and you want to be with them, do not limit them to what they do when you were just friends.

        2. Do not talk about the cliche of "but we are friends I didn't know you liked me like that." It doesn't work out 65% of the time. Don't ask me how I got that percentage I have a lot of friends and other people I know who did the same thing. However it is different for each person.

        3. At this point of the relationship you are friends with benefits. Go wild! If both of you are into that of course.

          Also are you male or female and is your best friend male or female? This is just so I know what I am saying. I just need the information. I don't know much here

          I wish I could find someone but I'm quite humble & quiet to new people. Most people don't really love me besides my family. I do have loads of friends though & it helps to not think about being lonely.

          Great you are still lonely relationship wise and being quiet can help. Just not all the time if you are just quiet all the time. Having friends can help boost your self esteem but once you think about being with nobody too much it can get to your mind, trust me. I'm speaking from first and third hand experience. I am sure you'll find someone if you are looking for anyone of course

            INTERNECION I'm really quiet around new ones but once I start to understand that person more, I get comfortable knowing what that person's boundaries are. I have been looking but not hard enough. I'm more focused on academic stuff & programming right now. I like to think that people are just missing out on a great person unless they already have someone good.

              Or you just need to get out more. But if you want to focus on your academic studies that's fine too. You'll just stay a virgin until you graduate college and even then you have to look for someone and have the skills to be with them as well. Unless of course someone has a crush on you but no offense it is just so unlikely for the common person to know whether or not they are being crushed on by someone else and you would never know unless the signs were so obvious that it would be a big neon light powerful enough to light up the entire city of Chicago. This is very complicated stuff and I don't know how I know this. but it's effective

                INTERNECION & I'm pretty fine being a virgin for a long time. & I really doubt people have a crush on me but like you said, it's completely possible. It just might not be for a long time.

                  TRU SAME HERE. Like one time I remember someone had a crush on me but I didnt figure it out until the end of the school year and I had to move schools! I regret it to this day but I am doing fine now

                    INTERNECION Thank you for the advice. I'm a male and she is a female. We known each other for 6 years now and we know a lot about each other. Apparently shes had this crush on me for at least 6 months. We still have been talking to each other over the phone, ever since i moved several years ago. I think shes willing to do a long distance relationship. Any other tips?

                        INTERNECION That sucks. Also, I think it's funny with my luck on crushes because just about any person I like/liked has either, lost contact to me, wasn't a good person, never really liked me, or others. It never seems to work in my favor even though I am a great person.

                          person So long term relationship... It barely EVER works for other people. Unless you have the patience of Ghandi himself and the trust of a god. However I think you can make it work. But its just that there is a higher chance she will find someone else if you are not together in the same area more of the time. There is always a brightside to situation though. You just have to believe! I know that sounds like a cat poster but it's true. Because if she is a person you can trust FULLY like 100% not 99.99999999999999999999...% but 100% then lets hope that you are good. I am only saying this because it's a long distance relationship. Those are brutal unless you get back together in the same area and stay together

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